T. Chick McClure: We had flown into the airport, hours apart. I got there first.
Chas McClure: Hmm
TKM: And when you called I was like “oh, okay he’s here.” And I walked to the door of the hotel room and there was a mirror there. So I got a last look at how different I knew I was going to look to you. There was a lot of time between when I was 14 and we reconnected on that trip.
CSM: Yeah
TKM: 30 years?
CSM: Why do you think it took so long?
TKM: You know, I know that you are politically conservative.
CSM: Right.
TKM: And I was worried that you might not accept me, being transgender.
CSM: You felt like that would be a bridge too far, really?
TKM: Yeah. I was worried about that. But I felt when I got off the elevator and we saw each other, we didn’t even have to say anything. We connected with our eyes.
CSM: It was just kind of a momentary shock, and then, when I heard your voice and you smiled and then we, you know, hugged, everything just went away.
TKM: Yeah.
CSM: I had a ball on that trip and a lot of it was just driving around looking out the window at the beautiful terrain shooting the breeze, which I really enjoy doing.
TKM: And it seemed like we were always on a quest to find the best chicken fried steak. Which –
CSM: Yeah, and I don’t think we ever really found the best one either.
TKM: And I’ve I’ve done a lot of thinking about that trip. And part of the reason that it was so great was just that I had been able to be honest with you about who I am, ya know?
CSM: Yeah.
TKM: So it was so great to have your acceptance. But also I felt like, you know, I’m accepting you. Cause I feel like I’ve been kind of rigid with you.
CSM: As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that, life is full of mysteries and you know me to be a very religious person. There’s many things that we either don’t understand or can’t understand. And you can’t abandon your family. I mean, that’s the only link that you have to, uh, eternity.
TKM: Yeah.
CSM: Do You remember when , uh, we said our goodbyes in, uh, the airport?
TKM: I just, I got emotional. I was so emotional.
CSM: Yeah
TKM: Because I do have regret. What I have regret about is lost time. You know?
CSM: Yeah.
TKM: I have regret about lost time. And when you got on your plane, that really occurred to me very strongly. None of us know, like what kind of time we’ve got, but I just want to make what time we have be really connected and talk about real things.
CSM: Yeah, me too. I’ll double down on that. That’s for sure.
TKM: I love you dad.
CSM: I love you too.